House
While there is a lot I don't understand about my mom, and a lot I don't agree with her on, I try my best to be open and understanding.
It's my first time visiting home today after a year. It was depressing, but seeing the pets made me feel nice for a good bit. The dogs were howling at me , they all don't know me.
I wanted my parents to live in a nice house. I want to live in a nice house, that's why I moved out. I couldn't take it any longer.
My mom's a hoarder and it's making our lives miserable. She doesn't want to get rid of things, she always sees values in them. She hates it when someone touches her stuff, and I'm done.
I left my childhood home because I couldn't deal with her anymore.
I tried to be as understanding as I could, damn, I still am trying.
For a good 2 years, I bore the responsibility of paying for our family car because we share it. I use it often as well. My mom and I were supposed to share the financing, but I noticed she gets broke often, so I took it from her. Now, we're done with the car, I mentioned house loaning to her.
My boyfriend and I are planning to not settle down in the Philippines. He already has a property in Argentina, and we would like to maintain it. Given how expensive houses are and how it's almost impossible to save up money, having a house is a luxury. Yes, it is from my family and friends, but it's another chapter that I will be living, and I'm looking forward to it.
This morning, I sent a link of housing loan to my mom and dad and told them, it would be nice if we could have the house started so at least they have a house to move to before I go to Argentina.
I told my mom, I'd give her around 2000 USD for my part of the house. She said it was supposed to be 10000 USD at least so we can build the upper part of the house. I said, "What?" I already shouldered the car. Which totaled up to 12000 USD. I also paid for the design of the house that was supposed to be built, and I also paid a percentage of the lot.
I don't want to live in the lot they bought.
When they purchased the lot, they didn't even ask me about, they didn't even consult me. They just made a decision and made me pay my part.
Now, I made it clear to my mom that I will be giving 2000 USD, and that's it. Hopefully, we can have the house done as soon as possible.
I mentioned, maybe we can sell the lot that they bought and look for a house somewhere else. If she was onboard in buying a house someplace else that I approve, I'd be happy to split the payment, but of course, she didn't want to sell it. She even told me if I didn't want to split it that's fine. So, that's what's happening.
Boundaries.
Look, I love my family, but it's hard to help people who can't help themselves. I'm just a girl. And this girl also needs money to move on in life.